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Thursday, October 4, 2012

Outfit Post: I Think I'm ♣UGLY♣

Don't you feel it too, sometimes? Like, being "ugly" and all? I bet you also do ...

Listening to 2NE1's song "UGLY" made me contemplate on the lyrics; a little bit and I did ponder on the meaning ... wallowing in deep thoughts may be unhealthy sometimes but the good brain exercise keep you sane.

I know I said it for some time now that office attire can be tricky some times because of the dress codes implemented and the interpretation behind it.


The song lyrics go (part of it, chorus) ...
"I think I'm ugly
And nobody wants to love me
Just like her I wanna be pretty
I wanna be pretty
Don't lie to my face
Tellin' me I'm pretty" 
My sentiments exactly! Sometimes, I feel like even when I dress up well, it is unappreciated and gets attention the wrong way. There are but a few who does give you praise and admiration for your fashion sense. There are those who would laugh in scorn. There are those who'd tell you you're pretty and all but says otherwise when you turn your back.

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It's a sad fact I guess. While dressing up doesn't necessarily mean you are trying to impress others but a mere expression of your self and artistic /creative side; it does hurt sometimes when you realize that there are those people who do nothing but talk behind you... and not just talk but negative talks ...


Chubby ... too short ... mini skirt doesn't look good on you ... "baduy" ... Trying hard ...

These are some of the words I heard already. While I don't really pay much attention to those when they come from people who don't really matter to me; and those who are just damn-envious and keep on picking on me; it hurts when I do get it from people I treasure. Not only that... it comes from other sources .... those who heard / captured the friends I cherish, say those unflattering words.

I normally just shrug and probably let go of the thought later on because I understand, each of us will have different points of view and our opinions will not match all the time. And when they do hurt, it's good to know that there are support mechanisms around like Support Fab - Fashion Against Bullying. Reading posts from other folks in the group around the world made me feel even better and even more blessed than what their experiences were. Sad fact but I guess we can never really prevent it from happening.


This outfit is inspired by that song from 2NE1 and eventually; the message that Support Fab is saying. I may feel "ugly" and unloved at first. And wonder why others who are not as expressive may be regarded prettier and I think again and again why is that so and may want later on to be just like her / them. However, getting the proper positivism from support groups will later on take off that thought. Instead, it'll boost more self confidence and build trust in your self.

Freely expressing your style seems to be getting repressed by bullies nowadays, who view fashion as a way to leverage their status, discarding the actual value of fashion: freedom of expression. But no matter what, don't ever feel bad anymore and waste your time on people who don't understand. You don't live for them anyway and they will never be pleased so don't even try. Instead, smile and pray for them - that they get their own happiness in a better way than bullying.


Dressing up doesn't have to be done to please others. It's your own freedom of expression. Freedom of style. Don't ever get scared and fear criticism. If they do compare you to others, smile and move on. For me, I even appreciate it more when people tell me personally than when I hear it elsewhere. Be confident and shun the negative comments. And later on, you won't feel "ugly" anymore. (^_^)




What do you think?

  1. Bronze Pearl Beaded Bracelet, TOMATO 
  2. DAS34 Heel-Less Ankle Strap Wedges (Black), DAS (warning: these shoes can kill!)
  3. MNG Cat Eye Sunglasses with Star Accent, Mango 
  4. Starburst Ring, Mia Casa http://miacasa8.multiply.com
  5. Indian Design Earrings, , (Gift)
  6. F21 Bronze Owl Necklace, Forever 21 Philippines 
  7. MNG Black Leather Flap Wallet / Handbag, Mango
  8. "Bitch" Bronze Connector Rings, Tickles
  9. Draped Front Cascading Cardigan & Retro Print Long Top in One (Black Variant), bYSI
  10. Black Pencil Cut Color-Blocking Asymmetric Pattern Skirt, A. Byer
  11. Stars Ring, Bedazzle Accessories

Where to find this look?
I Think I'm ♣UGLY♣
Lookbook | Tumblr | Facebook

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Chai

94 comments:

Marc.Chanelette said...

Looks fantastic, and I love your blog! visit your sweet post and do comment my post , would be great to follow me back ! FOLLOW :) xx


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Chai Chen said...

Thanks a lot really! :)
I dunno but I still can't access your link. (T_T) It tells me your blog is risky because of malware waaaahhh.:(

Miss Laia said...

Wise words honey, so TRUE, never feel bad about some people bad words, envy it's all they have.
Kisses
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I've been following you for a while

mochaccinoland said...

i have the same starburst ring! ^^ really cool shoes <3

xoxo
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aniacytrynka said...

I adore your outfits :)
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Lucka Srbová said...

Love your necklace and clutch! Following you! It would be great if you can follow me back:)


Kisses, Lucy:)
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DressCode:HighFashion said...

Oh dear, please! You`re gorgeous and you SHOULD know it.

We ALL have our "feeling ugly days" - how could we not, when the fashion- & beauty-industry bombards us with pictures of photoshopped 15-year-old pin-thin models, who they portray as "ideal". Not even those models live up to the ideal they embody in reality!
The industry WANTS women to "feel ugly & insufficient" because that fear keeps us consuming. We think if we buy that cream/bra/dress/makup/shoes/etc we`ll be prettier and therefore LOVED...BUT (!), earth to us:

WE CAN -and WILL- ONLY BE LOVED FOR WHO WE ARE - never for what we wear, for our body or skin.

I know, it`s easier to believe the empty promises of the industry and try to "buy happiness/love" but really, WORKING on inter-human relation-ships or a career is 5000% more beneficial for a woman than trying to "earn love through beauty".

Hugs, Jen

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Nice outfit :)
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Ang Lam said...

I think you have a great style and you look fabulous! You should totally ignore all the negative talk, just take it as them being jealous :) Thank you for the heart btw, that's very sweet of you <3

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Chai Chen said...

Weee thanks girl! The starburst ring is awesome!: )

Chai Chen said...

I adore you more! LOL. :) Thanks sweetie! :)

Chai Chen said...

Thanks my dear! Will follow you back. :)

Chai Chen said...

Awww your comment inspires me. :) Thanks for sharing your insights. Overall, us girls have to be confident and triumph over bullying. That's how beautiful we really are. :) *hugs Jen*

Chai Chen said...

Thanks so much! :) You do have nice outfits too. :)

Chai Chen said...

Anytime! I love your looks. :) Thanks so much! :)

Chai Chen said...

Anytime! I love your looks. :) Thanks so much! :)

Chai Chen said...

Thanks so much! :) You do have nice outfits too. :)

Chai Chen said...

Awww your comment inspires me. :) Thanks for sharing your insights. Overall, us girls have to be confident and triumph over bullying. That's how beautiful we really are. :) *hugs Jen*

Chai Chen said...

Thanks my dear! Will follow you back. :)

Chai Chen said...

I adore you more! LOL. :) Thanks sweetie! :)

Chai Chen said...

Weee thanks girl! The starburst ring is awesome!: )

Elise Mooijman said...

I think your heels are amazing! I don't know if I would be able to walk in those heels. 2ne1 is amazing :) Mooij

Kristen☆사랑 said...

I love this post. How you posted inspiring quotes is amazing. It made me feel a bit better about myself. :)

Chai Chen said...

The heels are fierce right? hehe. Thanks Mooij! :)

Chai Chen said...

Glad I made you feel better. :)

My Scrambled Style said...

Ignore negative people and negative talks. It's bad for your mood and energy. You look great and if your happy what your doing and about your clothes, that's the most important.

XoJennifer
http://myscrambledstyle.blogspot.nl/

Chai Chen said...

Awww love your comment dearie. Indeed, ignore the negatives! :)

Love yah girl @3707a4c78ecc5c5dcb6c7e4ac2ad4cfa:disqus ! (^_^)

FranciFrancesca said...

Love this outfit so much!!! In love with your HEELS..so sexy!! I
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Klaudia Wołoszyk said...

thanx you <3

Shamelessly Overdressed said...

Hi Chen Mai! Thanks for leaving a lovely comment at my blog! I love how you've put together an outfit inspired by a song... and one of my favorite 2ne1 songs, no less! I agree that you should never stop being you or dressing the way you want...life's too short to worry about what others think! Can't let negative people get us down. :)


BTW, those shoes look fabulous on you... are they hard to walk in? I'm following you also now via GFC... looking forward to supporting each other and to more posts from you! :)



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Chai Chen said...

Ohhh thanks Francesca! So nice of you. Great! Let's follow each other. I am now following you back. :) Visit me again some other time. :)

Chai Chen said...

No problem @google-8e447ff1f7d0dff6e0eef04ca817a5d9:disqus ! :) Thanks for always dropping by as well. :)

Chai Chen said...

True my dear! :)
Thanks for following back, really appreciate it. :) Been following you hehe. Guess we miss your posts already! Had fun in your trip? :)

Those shoes are actually comfortable. Not really hard to walk in. Love 'em!

Will look forward to your new posts and yes, will support you always! :)

www.jiglycious.com said...

really love this .. <3


xoxo
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Chai Chen said...

Thanks Arianti @1715a223ea9d0d2f300871fa73e90d6a:disqus !!!! Woot! :)

izaskun said...

Love your blog!!!
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xx

Katarina said...

Amazing look! Love your shoes and sunglasses :)

Rosalinda said...

Nice shoes! xx


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et said...

love the shoes! they're crazily awesome
check out my blog too if u like :D


xoxo, Eliza
Bread and Butter

Chai Chen said...

Thanks so much. :)

Chai Chen said...

Thanks so much for visiting again Katarina! :)

Chai Chen said...

Woot! I appreciate it Rosalinda! :) You are awesome! :)

Chai Chen said...

Thanks Eliza! :)

ileOdarod said...

those shoes! :) But yeah I feel you. It's the dilemma of us who love playing with our looks, But then who cares? I don't want to give-up being creative and my love for colors just to be plain and boring.

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SUSAN HANG said...

love the fullness of the black skirt - not overly uniform-esque! would love to follow!


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nancy @ adore to adorn said...

Smart post. No one should feel ugly or be bullied for how they look. You look lovely. =)
xo,
nancy


http://adoretoadorn.blogspot.com

Chai Chen said...

True enough Ile! *hugs*

Chai Chen said...

Thanks!

Chai Chen said...

Hope this isn't spam :)

Chai Chen said...

Thanks Susan! Yes we can follow each other. :)

Chai Chen said...

Thank you. :) *hugs*

Elisa said...

Love your shoes! so sexy :)



















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nico said...

Hi :)


So beautiful post, my love!


You look wonderful!


Have a great day,


Nico


www.nicoleta.me

natalijaaaaa said...

in love with your outfit <33333333333

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LoveT. said...

Great Post! Love the first Pic ,so creative! You look beautiful ♡

kisses from Vienna

Elizabeth Sullivan said...

inspired post. i really like your outfit!
love your blog! following you now!would love if you checked out my blog sometime!<3 nailvarnishvixen.blogspot.com

Nicoleta_B said...

Awesome look and such a great photos!!!

Happy Weekend,

Nicoleta

www.nicoleta.me

nico said...

Awesome look and such a great photos!!!


Happy Weekend,


Nicoleta


www.nicoleta.me

Anne said...

Looks so good!
Love, Anne

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Chai Chen said...

Thanks so much Elisa! You're really so sweet. :)

Chai Chen said...

Oh thanks Natalijaaa. :)

Chai Chen said...

Awww you're such a darling Nico! Thanks as always! :)

Chai Chen said...

Weee thanks a lot gurl! :) Take me to more of your trips! :)

Chai Chen said...

Thanks a lot! Yeah I'd love to visit your blog often. I think it looks cool. :)

Chai Chen said...

Thank you dear! You are always awesome for me. :)

Chai Chen said...

Weee thanks Anne! :)

Olivia Kim said...

interesting post


-liv
http://chocolivlovelaugh.blogspot.kr

Tanja said...

don't worry about people which don't like you - trough blogging I have seen that much people like how I dress up so I don't really care about this other people who maybe don't really have a sense of fashion! :) Love your heels, I can't never manage to walk in them! :D http://neverdreamedaboutthis.blogspot.com

Nici said...

Amazing shoes!

Nici said...

If you want, come and visit my blog
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cleo said...

your jewellery and purse are fantastic!<3 lovely outfit my dear<3:)

misskatv said...

very nice coordinate! i like your shoes! btw, i'm having a giveaway :)
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carmiscaprice said...

Your shoes are to die for! :-)


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Hope you could follow mine too
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vlado said...

perfect
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wastedpixie said...

super rad heels!
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Chai Chen said...

Thanks Liv! :)

Chai Chen said...

Haha thanks Tanja! You have such kind words. :)
The heels are just fine. :) I'm sure you can walk with them. :D

Chai Chen said...

THanks Nici! :)

Chai Chen said...

Alright. :)

Chai Chen said...

Thanks a lot Cleo dear! :)

Chai Chen said...

Thanks Misskatv! :)

Chai Chen said...

Thanks girl! Will do follow you back. :)

Chai Chen said...

Thanks Vlado! :)

Chai Chen said...

Sure thing dear! :)

Chai Chen said...

Thanks so much! :) You do have nice outfits too. :)

Chai Chen said...

Weee thanks girl! The starburst ring is awesome!: )

Chai Chen said...

I adore you more! LOL. :) Thanks sweetie! :)

Chai Chen said...

Thanks my dear! Will follow you back. :)

Chai Chen said...

Awww your comment inspires me. :) Thanks for sharing your insights. Overall, us girls have to be confident and triumph over bullying. That's how beautiful we really are. :) *hugs Jen*

Chai Chen said...

Anytime! I love your looks. :) Thanks so much! :)

Chai Chen said...

Always! Thanks Nico! :)

Chai Chen said...

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